(original published date: February 22, 2026)
2026 is already in full flight as we are in February and I realized this past weekend that I haven’t written a blog in MONTHS!!! Five months to be exact. And honestly? I’ve been in one of those seasons where growth happens faster than you can process it. I stepped into a new role late last year – one where my experience matters, where I’m bringing real value to the table – but here’s the humbling truth: experience only gets you so far when you’re learning an entirely new landscape. The past 5+ months have been a masterclass in “you don’t know what you don’t know.” And instead of letting my ego protect me from that discomfort, I’ve had to show up every single day with what I’m calling confident humility – the willingness to be both capable AND teachable at the same time. That posture? It’s not natural for me. It requires intentional surrender when the anxiety bubbles up. It requires me to get excited about not knowing instead of threatened by it. And through all of this stretching – and trust me, being stretched isn’t for the faint of heart – I’ve learned to recognize a couple of things that have kept me anchored: God winks and God blinks.
God winks. Look, I swear I made this up but it’s taken flight, at least on BibleTok that has become my FYP, and “God winks” is spreading like fire. But regardless of whether I coined it or heard it elsewhere… it’s what a God wink represents that matters. When you develop a closeness in your walk with God, the relationship deepens. And I’ve always been a bit of a “signs” kind of girl my whole life. God winks are like little signs in your day… truly could be anything.
Like this morning. I’m in the middle of some serious spiritual warfare in my mind (aren’t we all in this evil world?) and my daily devotional this morning moved me to full-out crying on my knees before getting ready to start my day. Not a bad cry – a cry of absolute gratitude and HIM speaking to ME through my devotional. Like HE KNOWS. He knows the dream I had, He knows the thoughts in my head right at their inception before I have even had a moment to process my own thought. HE KNOWS. And there is something so incredibly beautiful about surrender and seeing God meet me this morning at 5:30 am right in my devotional.
I got up, got ready for work, and when I arrived at my desk, I was setting my backpack down and getting the handy dandy laptop out when a dove flew right onto the window ledge in that exact moment and just stared at me as I unpacked my laptop and things… for a solid 45 seconds. That is a God wink. He’s saying “See, I got you girl, now go be a warrior in your day!”
But it can really be anything. When there is clarity and spiritual alignment in your life, when you seek out a relationship with God and ask Him into every aspect of your life… the God winks become abundant. And you just know God is watching over you. And the peace… ohhh the peace. Regardless of the stress or pressure of work or society or family… HE is there and HE has a really good sense of humor… and the love.
God blinks. These actually have a little bit more of a personal journey and I think… I THINK, I am the only one who has ever uttered these. But you know how you can be out with a girlfriend, or maybe you’re married or in a long-term relationship and let’s say you’re in public, or in an uncomfortable situation where words aren’t appropriate but you’re trying to code to your loved one, or even a coworker or friend through the language of eyes… like “warning” or “Stop” or “DON’T go there” and you blink a little intentionally long so that they know you mean business?? THAT my friend is a God blink.
Look, I have been a Christian since I was 8 years old. Truly. I accepted Christ as my Lord and Savior and was baptized and understood what that meant. And yes, I have had a relationship with God since. No question about it. But, it was surface level. I can admit that. A lot happened to get me to where I am spiritually now, but this is a rebirth, a true 2nd chance. Coming up on some major milestones in my recovery journey – nearly 4 years sober and 18 months since God rescued me from a narcissistic abusive relationship.
As I grow deeper in my faith and continue to intentionally surrender when I feel the anxiety bubbling up, I can admit that there are a lot of things that I still hear, see or think and say to myself “this doesn’t feel right” or “yeah I am getting an uneasy feeling about that.” This is a God blink. For women, it’s the beautiful gift of intuition but Biblically it’s discernment. And the Lord has loaded me up.
I’ve done the work – real work – on healing from trauma. Anyone who has experienced childhood trauma, sexual, emotional, or physical abuse or neglect, narcissistic abuse that will leave you more twisted than a pretzel… this stuff takes TIME to allow your body and nervous system to rewire how you think. And as that healing happens, if you are having an intimate relationship with God in every aspect of your life… HE will give you those God blinks. And I promise, You. Will. Know.
I recently treated myself to a solo cruise for my birthday. We experienced a crazy ice storm that caused me to have to go slightly over budget and book a hotel the night before to drive down to the port a day early so I didn’t get stuck. As someone who refuses to drive in ice after some close calls, I found a hotel – $130/night, 3.8 stars on Priceline, skimmed the reviews and booked it.
When I arrived, there was a very dark energy from the older man checking me in and there was a man circling the lobby behind me with his phone out, like he had an active line listening, about 5-6 feet behind me… just circling the lobby… not talking, not doing anything other than walking around with his phone faced out and an active screen so you could see there was a call. When I checked in, I looked the reception guy in the eyes – void. Dark. Nothing there. I started to get an uneasy feeling but I tried to shrug it off saying, I am only going to bed, I will be out of here first thing in the morning.
Then he stated my full name out VERY loud and then my room number, which was on the first floor, right next to a side door to a very shady dark alley. Again, I tried to shrug it off… was feeling uneasy, especially after stating my whole name and room number so loudly and the other man just circling the lobby behind me – for the ladies who have traveled a lot solo, you know… we live by a different set of rules – hypervigilance is secondary nature to us.
I settled into my bed and about an hour later, was scrolling on TikTok and a guy I have been following for the past few months came across my fyp and it was a video of him simply stating “Get Up” – now for the everyday watcher, this was a video about motivating us to get up and start getting busy creating the life you want. But God knows me. HE knew I would take that video literally… and so I did just that. I got up.
And as soon as I started looking around the room, I realized I had no deadbolt as a secondary security lock. There was a latch but the deadbolt was missing… I immediately packed my stuff, went to the lobby, was told that was the only room available, spent the next hour in the lobby, in my pjs on the phone with Priceline getting me booked in another hotel. I get booked at a different hotel down the street and as I am walking to my car with my luggage, I see a truck 3 cars down from me, with their windows down (it was 35 degrees outside), engine off with 2 men just sitting in the truck staring at me.
That video… THAT whole experience was a series of GOD BLINKS. Ladies we have to learn to listen to that little voice, that nudge, that little burn you feel deep in your belly… that is GOD. Don’t ignore it. I truly believe it saved my life that night and 1000s of times before.
Here’s what I’m learning about confident humility in real time: it’s the thing that lets me walk into spaces where I have the most to learn and still show up with conviction about what I do know. It’s what helps me discern when someone’s resistance to me is actually about them, not me – because my presence requires honesty and some people’s presence requires ego. And ego always flees when truth enters the room.
I’ve watched people exit my life, and instead of spiraling into “what did I do wrong,” confident humility reminds me: when your intentions are pure, you don’t lose people; people lose you. That’s my spiritual MO for 2026. It keeps me from taking personally what God is actually pruning. Dead weight can’t be carried as you ascend, and He will bring the right people into your path when He knows you’re ready for them.
Until then? I’m showing up every day thanking Him for the pain. Thanking Him for the absolute anguish that got me here – coming up on 4 years sober this June, 18 months free from narcissistic abuse, healing a nervous system that needed rewiring after years of survival mode. My devotional said it perfectly the other day: “Though the storm rages in your soul, the healing rain that falls will soften the soil in which I will grow your faith.”
That’s where I’m living right now – in the softened soil, learning to lead with confident humility, and trusting that speaking my truth is simply letting Him work through me. I’m the vessel. And I’ve got so much more to learn, but knowing I’m walking in divine alignment? That makes waking up feel a whole lot brighter.
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